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Day 61 / 100 Days to More ~
Drainers – we’ve all got them – you know, people who suck the oxygen out of the room, people who invade your physical and mental space with their ongoing issues. People whom you know you’ve been commanded by God to love, but it’s really, really hard. Sometimes such people create conflict because they enjoy drama.
I’m sure you know this type – someone who seems to get a “high” when there is dissension among friends or family members. People who generate drama can drain your energy and make your life so heavy that you can’t drag your fanny out of the house or even produce a smile. Want to get your life back to normal or even have a pleasant demeanor, then put the hand against the drainer. Bottom line – if someone is pushing your buttons, it’s not that person’s fault…it’s your fault for not setting your own boundaries. It’s your fault for not shutting down the negativity. Take charge of your life…surround yourself with people that lift you up, not bring you down!
Action: Who you hang out with impacts your life, are they lifting you to a brighter tomorrow or holding you anchor?
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Sometimes you have to fail a thousand times to succeed. No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying. Don’t get hung up on one failed attempt that you miss the opening for many more. All of your ideas that don’t work are simply stepping stones on your way to the one idea that does. And remember, failure is not falling down; failure is staying down when you have the choice to get back up. Always get back up! Good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
When someone is grounded and well-balanced, it makes the biggest difference in the world. They have peace. They can conquer any task, none is too big. They are happy and have true joy. They encourage others and are happy for other’s blessings. They have confidence and are secure with themselves. They love unconditionally. They are a beacon of hope. They shine bright. They help others. Wow. See the transformation! But, when someone doesn’t have balance, their life is tilted, they feel hopeless, they feel burdened, they feel discouraged, they feel lost. “To be human is to be beautifully flawed.” October Baby
Action: What is a regret you have, and how can you ensure you won’t encounter the same outcome again?
Read MoreDay 59 / 100 Days to More ~
Just because someone is more talented than you, doesn’t diminish your own talent. Just because someone is stronger than you, doesn’t discount your own resilience. Just because someone is better able to support a friend in the way that they need sometimes, doesn’t mean you’re not helping them or that you’re not as good of a friend. Just because someone is better at their job than you are, doesn’t mean you’re not contributing to your workplace. That’s not to say we should all stop trying to ever improve or work on ourselves—rather, it’s a reminder that what each of us has to offer the world is valuable, and that value is inherent in its existence. What anyone else has to offer the world is unrelated. You do not need to bring someone down to bring yourself up. Likewise, someone else going up does not indicate that you are going down. There is no world quota on goodness.
Despite how put together someone may seem on the outside, no one is perfect, and that’s okay. Whether you have a difficult time being social, talking on the phone, becoming independent, using your voice, entering a relationship, connecting with others, individuating from your family, or getting out of bed each morning to face the world — know that it’s okay. And know that despite your struggle, you are capable, you are talented, you are important, and you are enough.
Action: What do you love most about yourself?
Read MoreDay 58 / 100 Days to More ~
Failures may be so hurtful and disappointing, knowing you did your best in everything. But it doesn’t mean life must end there. Stand up and live. Keep the confidence. Be strong and keep your faith by making the best out of it. For everything happens for a reason, a reason to teach you and correct you and a reason to bring the strength in you. You can start over again! Don’t even think about quitting now!
It’s easy to replay in your mind how things didn’t work; how much you lost; what you’re going through; and how angry you are. There’s no amount of conversation or magic that’s going to wipe the slate clean. You’re wasting valuable time and energy that could be used to regain a new normal, and start another version of your life. Even though you’re hurt, and you may be feeling down ~ stop kicking yourself! Face what has happened, and make the decision to start over again.
Action: What can you do today to start living for tomorrow?
Read MoreDay 57 / 100 Days to More ~
Forgive yourself and forgive others…so you can live in every dimension of your life. Practice forgiving those who have caused you pain, disappointment, or harmed you. Forgiveness is not for them. It’s for you. Forgiveness is not forgetting…it’s remembering without being full of anger or revenge, and allowing this to control you or your responses. When you forgive, you release the hold someone else’s behavior has on your mind, feelings, and actions. It allows you to free yourself from the attachments to people in your past or present that have imprisoned you, and kept you from having the life journey you were meant to live.
Give people you don’t know a fair chance. When you look at a person, any person, remember everyone has a story. Everyone has gone through something that has changed them, and forced them to grow. Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours. We meet no ordinary people in our lives. If you give someone a chance, you will know everyone has something amazing to offer. So appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.
Action: When you let go, you get more.
Read MoreDay 56 / 100 Days to More ~
Let go of those who are already gone. The sad truth is that there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave. The good news is, if you tough it out, you’ll eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great people you can count on. We rarely lose friends and lovers, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are. So when people walk away from you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you. It doesn’t mean they are bad people; it just means that their part in your story is over.
When you find yourself cocooned in isolation and cannot find your way out of the darkness, remember that this is similar to the place where caterpillars go to grow their wings. Just because today is a terrible day doesn’t mean tomorrow won’t be the best day of your life. You just got to get there.
If you hang out with chickens, you’re going to cluck and if you hang out with eagles, you’re going to fly.
Action: Do you plan to soar or settle in life?
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