What is Life Coaching? | You Matter Life Coaching

If you want results, then you’ve got to do something better than you are doing right now. A Life Coach helps you figure out what to do next, and motivate you to make a plan, stick to it, and get RESULTS.

What is a Life Coach?
What can a Life Coach do for me?
Can a Life Coach get me unstuck?
Can a Life Coach help me identify what is holding me back?
Can a Life Coach help you get what you want?
What is the origin of the word “Coach?”
How does Coaching differ from Counseling?
What do coaches do to help others?
Here are 5 scenarios where a Life Coach could come in handy.
Who is my client after Life Coaching?

What is a Life Coach? (top)
You Matter Life Coach has one goal: To help people live happy, healthy, and balanced lives. For example, when the body is in motion, it has purpose, energy, and momentum. And the more you move, the stronger, more flexible, and more resilient your body becomes! A life in balance is very much the same. One has direction, momentum, energy, and purpose. It is propelled forward by sheer inertia once it has a destination. A sedentary object, however, can rarely get moving on its own without some kind of external force or thrust of energy to put it into motion. And the heavier it is, the more force it takes. That’s where your You Matter Life Coach comes in – motivating you, empowering you, and encouraging you to get yourself in gear.
What can a Life Coach do for me? (top)
With a You Matter Life Coach, you’ll get a Certified Christian Life Coach who will provide professional Life Coaching services to help you try new things, make better choices, and get better results from your life. Your Life Coach will help you move forward in a more effective and efficient manner. For example: You may need a Life coach to assist you in weight loss, make a tough decision, help you move your career forward, or coach you to get yourself and your life more organized, even work with you to stop making excuses, and get on with it!
Can a Life Coach get me unstuck? (top)
If you feel as though you’re “stuck,” or have for one reason or another stopping you from moving forward in some aspect of your life, having a Life Coach in your corner may be just what you need to propel you forward. A You Matter Life Coach can help you get motivated; stay focused, and stay on track.
Can a Life Coach help me identify what is holding me back? (top)
A Life Coach can help you identify what it is you want, what’s holding you back, and how you can live a life that is more fulfilling and enjoyable. Getting a fresh perspective from an objective point of view who won’t judge you, hold anything against you, or just tell you what you want to hear, can give you the boost you need to get real, get honest, and get moving.
Can a Life Coach help you get what you want? (top)
No matter what your goals may be, a Life Coach can help get you over the hurdles that are standing in your way. A Life Coach will help you get the things you want for yourself (or get back the things you once had) and live a life that is more fulfilling, more honest, and more rewarding.
What is the origin of the word “Coach?” (top)
The first time it was ever used, the word coach described a horse-drawn vehicle – a stagecoach that would get people from where they were to where they wanted to be. A modern bus does the same thing, and often these vehicles are called coaches. Most often today, coaches are people who help athletes and teams move from one place to another that is better and where they want to be. Even Michael Jordan had a coach to help improve his game of basketball. But coaches also help musicians, public speakers, actors, who rely on coaching to improve their skills, overcome obstacles, remain focused, and get to where they want to be. Coaching is very popular in business and corporate settings around the world where “executive coaches” help managers and other business leaders deal with change, develop new management styles, make wise decisions, become more effective, cope with their hyperactive lifestyles, and deal with stress. Executive coaches work with people in business to help them move from where they are to levels where they are more competent, fulfilled, and self-confident that they would have been otherwise. In summary, coaches guide people from where they are toward the greater competence and fulfillment they desire. Coaching is the art and practice of working with a person or group in the process of moving from where they are to where they want to be.
How does Coaching differ from Counseling? (top)
Unlike counseling or therapy, coaching is less threatening, less about problem solving, more about helping people reach their potential. Coaching is not for people who need therapy to overcome painful influences from the past; coaches help people build vision and move toward the future. Coaching is not about looking back; it’s about looking forward or ahead. Coaching is not about healing; it’s about growing or expanding.
Coaching focuses less on overcoming weaknesses and more on building skills and strengths. Usually coaching is less formal than the counselor/counselee relationship; more often it is a partnership between two equals, one of whom has experience, perspectives, skills, or knowledge that can be useful to the other.
What do coaches do to help others? (top)
Coaches stimulate better skills. Good coaching helps people anticipate what they could become, overcome self-defeating habits or insecurities, manage relationships, develop new competencies, and build effective ways to keep improving. Coaches stimulate vision. Many individuals have no clear vision. They keep doing what they have done for years, without much change and with little expectation that things will ever be different. Coaches work with individuals and organizations (including churches) as they think beyond the present, more clearly envision the future, and plan how to get there. Coaches help people grow through life transitions. Whenever we encounter major changes in our lives – such as a new job, a promotion, a move, the death of a loved one, the launch of a new career, or retirement – we face uncertainty and the need to readjust. Experienced coaches better enable people to reassess their life goals, find new career options, change lifestyles, get training, reevaluate their finances, or find information so they can make wise decisions. Coaches speak the truth in love. Good coaches know that sometimes the best way to help is by refusing to ignore harmful behavior patterns. Instead, coaches nudge people to deal with attitudes and behavior that should be faced and changed.
Here are 5 scenarios where a Life Coach could come in handy. One of them might be very similar to what you are going through… (top)
- LOVE of SELF – Gretchen wanted to get married and have a family. That was her heart’s desire. Gretchen was funny, intelligent, and kind, but she never met anyone and no one took interest. Gretchen hired a LC. The LC listened and helped Gretchen see a new perspective of herself and her life. Gretchen was a overweight, never tried anything new, and kept her true self hidden from people. Why? Gretchen didn’t love herself. She used her weight as mask, a veil to cover herself. Gretchen tried to lose weight, talked about changing her ways, but never made the hard change, the lasting change. The LC helped Gretchen see her beauty, inner beauty and helped identify why she didn’t love herself. Gretchen was scared to make herself vulnerable so she hid behind her insecurities. The LC helped her be vulnerable, gave her milestones, and helped her lose weight through fitness goals and nutrition guidance. Gretchen started seeing a difference in her appearance, her confidence, her attitude. Gretchen started truly loving herself. And before you can love anyone, you must first love yourself. Gretchen is now 70lbs lighter, radiating joy to others, and is engaged. But most of all, Gretchen fell in love with herself and started treating herself with love, respect, and honor.
- TRUST – Megan was afraid of flying. She dreamed of seeing the world, taking vacations with her family, visiting old friends, but didn’t do any of this because she was afraid. Megan’s husband hired a Life Coach. The LC listened while Meg talked and discovered that Megan’s source of the problem wasn’t fear of flying, but something more deeply rooted. Megan was really hurt as a kid by someone she loved and her trust was violated. As a result, she tried to control everything and everyone around her. She couldn’t fly the plane and didn’t trust the pilot, the security, or even the seat belts. Her lack of control paralyzed her, thus having complete fear. The LC and Megan worked through her control problems, helped work through her control issues, and worked through her trust issues. loved and her trust was violated. As a result, she tried to control everything and everyone around her. She couldn’t fly the plane and didn’t trust the pilot, the security that could have let the terrorists slip by, the way she was vulnerable to others. Her lack of control paralyzed her, thus having complete fear. The LC and Megan worked through her control problems, helped work through her childhood trauma, and displayed her fear with trust. Now, Megan’s passport is stamped with 27 countries and is truly enjoying life.loved and her trust was violated. As a result, she tried to control everything and everyone around her. She couldn’t fly the plane and didn’t trust the pilot, the security that could have let the terrorists slip by, the way she was vulnerable to others. Her lack of control paralyzed her, thus having complete fear. The LC and Megan worked through her control problems, helped work through her childhood trauma, and displayed her fear with trust. Now, Megan’s passport is stamped with 27 countries and is truly enjoying life.Now, Megan’s passport is stamped with 27 countries and is truly enjoying life.
- NOT WORTHY – Pastor Jack led a 200 member congregation, but talked about increasing the # of members for years. He had plans, brainstormed with the staff, and even hired a business planner…but, nothing happened! He hired a Life Coach. They met, talked, and discovered that Pastor Jack only thought Pastors with ministry degrees could lead big churches. The LC helped him see his potential, helped him believe in himself that he was worthy to lead a big church with or without a degree, and eliminated any self-doubt. Now, Pastor Jack leads a 5000+ congregation.
- QUALITY OF LIFE – Scott was a very successful attorney that owned a prestigious law firm, but Scott wanted to turn in his practice and turn away from what he always loved because he was miserable. Scott’s wife was furious because she had worked and taken care of the family while he went to school. Scott’s wife would not let him sell the business and hired him a Life Coach thinking he was having a mid-life crisis. The LC listened to Scott’s thoughts, dreams, and passions. What was determined was when Scott first started his practice it was small, he spent time with the family, went home at decent hours, and even got to play gold once a week. But, with the large practice all of this was missing and he wanted out. The LC helped him with an action plan. Scott hired additional attorney’s to share the work load; and the practice is very successful. Scott leaves the office everyday by 5 and spends time with his family. Scott even golf’s once a week. Scott is enjoying his life again and still practicing law that he loves so much. mid-life crisis. The LC listened to Scott’s thoughts, dreams, and passions. What was determined was when Scott first started his practice it was small, he spent time with the family, went home at decent hours, and even got to play golf once a week. But, with the large practice all of this was missing and he wanted out. The LC helped him with an action plan. Scott hired additional attorneys to share the work load; and the practice is very successful. Scott leaves everyday by 5 and spends time with his family. Scott even golf’s once a week. Scott is enjoying his life again and still practicing law that he loves so much.
- PASSION or PURPOSE – Chris was a successful Director for one of the most well-known organizations in the United States. Chris liked his job, but didn’t love it because it wasn’t his passion, and only stayed because of the financial security it offered. Then Chris got married and was traveling 4 days out of the week, and his wife was sad for not being with him. Chris always wanted to be married, but was constantly stressed and unhappy. He couldn’t sustain the fast-paced, busy work life and have a great marriage too. Chris consulted a LC. The LC helped Chris determine his purpose and passion. Chris was excited about the possibilities and talked it over with his wife. They made a decision together. Chris quit his job and went back to school, Culinary School. Now, Chris is spending time with his wife while chasing his dream. They might now have the financial security as they had before, but they are both happy. Chris is no longer wasting his life on a job that just paid the bills, but is now able to exercise, and take care of him, share his gift with others, do something everyday that he loves, and is truly happy for the first time in a long time. Life is too short to be unhappy. It’s not about how much money you make, it’s about the quality of your life.
Who is my client after Life Coaching? (top)
My ideal client is transformed! They embrace who they are and their circumstance, understands what their core concern is, and stabilizes their life. My ideal client lives each day like it is Friday. My ideal client shines bright and touches others in a positive manner. My ideal client knows their worth. My ideal client sets goals and achieves them. My ideal client gets planted in deep soil…it’s good, it’s taken care of, it’s watered, it’s loved…it flourishes. My desire is for my client to be happy, surrounded by people that life them up, have people give into their life and not take, enjoy the simple things, takes pleasure in life, appreciate what they do have and not dwell on what they don’t, and stop all the extras in life and just experience the peace – that would be ideal. My ideal client knows order is better than chaos. They know love is better than anger. They have clarity now rather than confusion. They have happiness, not sadness. They are full, not empty.

Bottom Line – My ideal client is happy and lives a balanced, full, thriving life!