Stop Being Afraid

Posted by on Aug 6, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

Let’s be honest, most of us hide who we truly are because we are afraid of what other people will think about us, let alone gossip about us behind our backs!  So, instead we wear a mask of perfection, meaning everything is great, my life looks exactly like I portray it to be on Facebook. (How many likes did I get for that post?)  Yet, in reality, it couldn’t be farther from the truth!

My question is why?  Why do we put on an act?  Why do we care so much about what other people think?  Why do we make believe instead of being real?  Why can’t we be honest about our ugly parts as we showcase our pretend existence? 

The Answer – We are afraid. Afraid of rejection, afraid to fail, afraid we’re not good enough in the eyes of the world, afraid to be rebuked, afraid to change, afraid to be vulnerable…the list can go on, but the bottom line is we’re afraid.




Friend, you and I both cannot launch into our best life in fear.

So how do we get honest about our deepest fear….who we truly are….the good, the bad, and the ugly?  You know the ugly I’m talking about.  These ugly moments of who we really are. 

The ugly moments of truth that we hide 6-feet deep within because we feel if anyone knows the real us, we feel we would be outcasted to solo land.  Ostracized for life.  Instead we pretend…because no one likes ugly…resulting in hiding our authenticity. Sadly, we hide ourselves so beautifully to the world, and stay brokenly pieced like a mosaic stain glassed window. 

So how do we get vulnerable and brave? We have to trust in who we are. Trust we are beautifully created, yet flawed with imperfection.  We are imperfectly perfect.  A beautiful disaster.  Like broken pieces of the stained glass patched together for wholeness, we must own our full selves!  Good, Bad, and Ugly!

It’s time to realize that not everyone will like us (shocker), and be okay with it.  The right people will like us for who we are. It’s time to realize no one is truly perfect.  Anyone who claims to have a perfect life is not really living.  It’s time to realize other people are silently suffering too.  It takes one person to speak up and be honest about their ugly moments.  It’s go-time to be brave and live authentically in a world full of imposters.

Friend, it’s time for us to take off our masks and say how we truly feel, think, want, dream, and need for our lives.  Yes, being vulnerable about our weaknesses, pains, hardships, and struggles are scary because it requires honesty.  But, would you rather have people like the real you instead of a false version of what you pretend to be? You might be able to fake the world, but God knows your truth.  Relish in the truth that you are not alone, we all have ugly moments!

When will it finally be the year of yes! Yes to the real you. Yes to getting the help you need. Yes to quitting the job you can’t stand. Yes to taking a chance. Yes to saying goodbye to a cancerous mirage. Yes to owning your good, bad, and ugly and not being afraid to be who you really are? No more regrets, no more hiding, no more wearing a perfect mask, no more suffering in silence, no more being afraid!  You got this!  I believe in you…the real you, the imperfectly perfect you.  Remember, You Matter. 

What is your ugly?  How can I pray for you?

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It’s time to take care of you.

Posted by on Aug 2, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

Live your dream. Take off the cape. Do what you know and not what you feel. You deserve to live too! You have needs too! Give yourself a mental break and take time to get centered, grounded and reconnected with your spirit. Allowing your time to be wasted with people who are not serious is not fruitful and it’s stressful. Staying in a job where you are not appreciated or valued or validated is draining and toxic. Hanging on to a relationship that has been dead a long time ago takes a toll. Take a deep breath and tap into the courage to make the tough decision. Things might be difficult for a while, but don’t underestimate yourself.

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Day 100 / 100 Days to More ~

Posted by on Apr 10, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

I see so many people spending too much time trying to support those who do not in turn support them. This sucks their positive energy; relationships need to be win-win otherwise resentment will always find a way in and derail your own progress. Be careful of the “Your Success is My failure” mentalities, these individuals resent your progress because they feel it means they are failing. Build a strong inner-circle of positive “proactive” people.” 

No matter what you do or how amazing you are, throughout your lifetime some people will still upset you, disrespect you, and treat you poorly. Hatred and negativity filling your heart and mind will only consume you and your potential. You will begin to heal and grow emotionally when you let go of these past hurts, excuse the people who have wronged you, and forgive yourself for your misjudgments.

Learning to ignore certain people and situations is one of the great paths to inner peace. So let GO when you must. Let them be, so you can be at peace. There will be always people who don’t like you; the way you look, the way you talk, the things you say, the way you dress, the things you believe in, the music you listen to but truth is: it’s up to you if you let them ruin your day or if you learn to stand up for yourself and accept yourself just the way you are. Try to be as good as you can and if that’s not enough for them, it will certainly be for someone else. You’re not here to please anyone. Just be nice and true to yourself.

Action:  Are you more….

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Day 99 / 100 Days to More ~

Posted by on Apr 9, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

You don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to have it all together. You don’t need to please everyone. You don’t need to be anything or anyone other than who you are. You are more than good enough. Who you are is beautiful. Who you are is loved. Who you are is special in more ways than one. Place that heavy burden on the ground. Throw it into the sea. Expel it from your being. You will be lighter in mind, body, and soul. Live in that freedom of the true you.

You might be reluctant to get rid of your bad habits because they are familiar and comfortable to you. But instead of clinging to those bad habits, realize that you can adopt better ones that will eventually feel just as good–if not better–than your old habits, and will benefit you so much more in the long term. Start small by replacing one small bad habit with one good habit. Soon, you will have given all your habits a healthy upgrade, and you’ll feel much better as a result!

Action: What are you doing with your life to get more later?  Who do you need to become?

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Day 98 / 100 Days to More ~

Posted by on Apr 8, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

One of the biggest obstacle that stops people from achieving their dreams is the feeling that they are not good enough. Don’t be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality. You are good enough! Don’t let life discourage you. Success is often closer than it seems. With enough determination and drive, anything is possible in time. Everyone who got to where they are had to begin from where they were, just like you.

Beware of the dream-busters who find pleasure in telling you that you can’t have your dream and that you should give up. That’s a part of life. There will always be people in your face telling you NO! But don’t let anyone turn you around! Keep your mind focused on your goal. There will be seasons where you’ll fall on hard times and you may wonder if you’ll be able so survive. The answer is Yes!! You have it like that! You will overcome!

Action: Don’t let nobody turn you around! You have a power in you that can turn rejection into acceptance; powerlessness into strength; and a layoff into a successful business. Don’t let nobody turn you around! This is the time you have to get your hustle on and make things happen because you were born to win.

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Day 97 / 100 Days to More ~

Posted by on Apr 7, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

Without challenges you cannot unlock your full potential. Obstacles are opportunities for growth. The world needs the fullness of who you are, and it is through your experiences in life that you unfold into that fullness. How can you demonstrate willpower and strength if your resolve has never been tested? How can you role model love and compassion if you have never faced the opposite? Knowing there is a higher purpose within dark times, is what leads you to be at peace in the midst of those storms, knowing that you are a diamond being forged under pressure.

It’s not usually the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it. The biggest obstacles that stand between a person and what they want in life is the will to try it, and the faith to believe it’s possible. Hope is the little voice inside your head that whispers “maybe” when it seems like the whole world is shouting “impossible!” That weight you’ve placed upon your shoulders is going to crush you. Take it off.

Action: What weight did you remove from you?

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