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2020 BLOG – 2 of 52 – Got Drama?

Posted by on Jan 7, 2020 in Blog | 0 comments

Eleanor Roosevelt’s quote, “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” has resonated for years.  Eleanor was an orphan who didn’t allow her present circumstance to dictate her future.  She was a lady on mission who didn’t allow low-hanging fruit to distract her, deter her, and discourage her from achieving greatness.  Mrs. Roosevelt was the longest-serving first lady who modeled sophistication and class, represented substance and depth, and was someone others would be smart to emulate. 

When you think of the quote, which one are you?  Great minded, average minded, or small minded? 

When I was much younger, I was small minded.  I associated with people going nowhere in life but the couch each night, conversed in reality television updates on lunch break or worse was when we talked about people, skimmed entertainment magazines, and stayed stuck in misery loves company friendships.  I was the person who hung out with people, just to hang out with people….even if they weren’t good people. How sad is that?! 

For years, nothing changed from the no value Groundhog Day life I was living until I started working in Protocol, and began associating with General Officers in the military and cultured professionals.  These people were different from anyone I had ever known.  They didn’t use profanity to get their point across in a sentence, but used words of real value. Their conversations consisted of purpose, life-giving, world-saving, encouraging others, conquering tasks, ensuing excellence, and had meaningful real talk. I saw a glimpse of greatness and started working towards having that type of life.

Initially, when I began growing into that life direction, people were mean and said, “I was acting too good for them!” and talked poorly of me, treated me rudely, and would actually make fun of me.  I finally had enough of going and growing alone!  I longed for a better life and decided I would rather be alone than to be in company where I didn’t belong.  I didn’t want negativity as a compass to guide me in my future journey…I wanted greatness. 

Do I have regrets leaving the small-minded scene?  Nope!  And you know what else I don’t have….DRAMA.  My life is now full of substance and meaning.  I’m too busy creating a legacy to be proud of to be worried about whether I’m liked or not, what’s the latest with the Kardashian clan, or what Dave, Nancy, or Tom are doing.  Talk about peace….that’s what this home girl has brewing in her heart.  I became the CEO of my surroundings and place great value on my time, who I associate with and for how long, and what I watch, listen to, read, and focus on. Plus, God and His written Word are the source for the direction I’m going.

For you in the New Year and new decade of 2020, where do you see yourself now….and where do you see yourself going?  Will you be the same person 10-years from now talking and doing nothing worthwhile but pleasing your own small-minded desires, or will you have met new people who discuss ideas that can change lives, circumstances, or dreams?  I’ll be praying for you.  I  hope you understand the quote, begin to see the bigger picture, and finally live out the great meaning.  You Matter

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2020 BLOG – 1 of 52 – Fresh Start

Posted by on Jan 2, 2020 in Blog | 0 comments

As 2019 comes to an end, so does an end of a decade. When you reflect back, are you proud of what you see with your life?  Is it drastically different from 2010 and on, or does it parallel the same?  Did you accomplish the goals you set out, or have you been stagnant?  Did you get the extra weight off, or are you still lugging the same old fat tire around your middle section?  Did you finally leave the job you dread to ignite what your heart’s passion burns?  The bottom line question is – Are you the same – or – Are you living the life you desire?

If the answer is living the life you desire….than I challenge you to do more.  Yes, I double dog dared you with whip cream on top challenged you.  What does that mean?  Mentor that younger version of yourself neighbor who dreads life.  Sign-up for that scary adventure you’ve been wanting to do.  Go to Antarctica. Serve at the local Food Pantry.  Run the 5K.  Start a non-profit.  Plant the garden.  Ask that person out on a date.  Get a bigger, bolder, more audacious dream that requires a dream team.  I challenge you  to do more because if you are living comfortably, you’ve become complacent.  You should live full, die empty with nothing left because you gave everything you had and dug deeper to give even more.  Wow!  Imagine the power within yourself waiting to be unleashed for the unimaginable yet to be accomplished. You Go!

If the answer is your life is the sameProcrastination is your mindset.  Excuses are your crutch.  Laziness is your friend.  I’m sounding harsh, right?!  It’s because I am.  I care about you.  I do not want you to live the same day for 75-years and call it a life.  I shutter when I think of you looking back at your life with regret and tears streaming from your eyes.  I don’t want you to take your last breath and remember nothing worthwhile.  Your life should be how you make it sound on Facebook and social media.  Sitting at home, watching television will get you nowhere, but a fixed mindset and more pounds added to your weight, which you end up hating. It’s a cycle of disaster, and YOU.CAN.CHANGE.IT.  Only you have the power to change your life, ONLY YOU. Your life should be what others talk about….because you are moving and shaking and making a difference. The world will know your name because you cared and tried, while most talk a good game, but never put their words into action.  The smallest action is better than the grandest intent. 

Time is NOW.  Start the new decade with a mindset of I Will.  Believe in yourself, because I do.  I’ve never met a quitter that was a winner.  I’ve never met a healthy person who ate poorly and didn’t exercise.  I’ve net met a happy person at work on a Monday unless they were the owner, or doing a job they loved.  I’ve never met someone who didn’t have regrets.  I’ve never or I Will.  Choice is yours, but time is fleeting.  Everyone dies, but NOT EVERYONE LIVES. You Matter

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Stop Being Afraid

Posted by on Aug 6, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

Let’s be honest, most of us hide who we truly are because we are afraid of what other people will think about us, let alone gossip about us behind our backs!  So, instead we wear a mask of perfection, meaning everything is great, my life looks exactly like I portray it to be on Facebook. (How many likes did I get for that post?)  Yet, in reality, it couldn’t be farther from the truth!

My question is why?  Why do we put on an act?  Why do we care so much about what other people think?  Why do we make believe instead of being real?  Why can’t we be honest about our ugly parts as we showcase our pretend existence? 

The Answer – We are afraid. Afraid of rejection, afraid to fail, afraid we’re not good enough in the eyes of the world, afraid to be rebuked, afraid to change, afraid to be vulnerable…the list can go on, but the bottom line is we’re afraid.

STOP!

STOP!

STOP!

Friend, you and I both cannot launch into our best life in fear.

So how do we get honest about our deepest fear….who we truly are….the good, the bad, and the ugly?  You know the ugly I’m talking about.  These ugly moments of who we really are. 

The ugly moments of truth that we hide 6-feet deep within because we feel if anyone knows the real us, we feel we would be outcasted to solo land.  Ostracized for life.  Instead we pretend…because no one likes ugly…resulting in hiding our authenticity. Sadly, we hide ourselves so beautifully to the world, and stay brokenly pieced like a mosaic stain glassed window. 

So how do we get vulnerable and brave? We have to trust in who we are. Trust we are beautifully created, yet flawed with imperfection.  We are imperfectly perfect.  A beautiful disaster.  Like broken pieces of the stained glass patched together for wholeness, we must own our full selves!  Good, Bad, and Ugly!

It’s time to realize that not everyone will like us (shocker), and be okay with it.  The right people will like us for who we are. It’s time to realize no one is truly perfect.  Anyone who claims to have a perfect life is not really living.  It’s time to realize other people are silently suffering too.  It takes one person to speak up and be honest about their ugly moments.  It’s go-time to be brave and live authentically in a world full of imposters.

Friend, it’s time for us to take off our masks and say how we truly feel, think, want, dream, and need for our lives.  Yes, being vulnerable about our weaknesses, pains, hardships, and struggles are scary because it requires honesty.  But, would you rather have people like the real you instead of a false version of what you pretend to be? You might be able to fake the world, but God knows your truth.  Relish in the truth that you are not alone, we all have ugly moments!

When will it finally be the year of yes! Yes to the real you. Yes to getting the help you need. Yes to quitting the job you can’t stand. Yes to taking a chance. Yes to saying goodbye to a cancerous mirage. Yes to owning your good, bad, and ugly and not being afraid to be who you really are? No more regrets, no more hiding, no more wearing a perfect mask, no more suffering in silence, no more being afraid!  You got this!  I believe in you…the real you, the imperfectly perfect you.  Remember, You Matter. 

What is your ugly?  How can I pray for you?

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It’s time to take care of you.

Posted by on Aug 2, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

Live your dream. Take off the cape. Do what you know and not what you feel. You deserve to live too! You have needs too! Give yourself a mental break and take time to get centered, grounded and reconnected with your spirit. Allowing your time to be wasted with people who are not serious is not fruitful and it’s stressful. Staying in a job where you are not appreciated or valued or validated is draining and toxic. Hanging on to a relationship that has been dead a long time ago takes a toll. Take a deep breath and tap into the courage to make the tough decision. Things might be difficult for a while, but don’t underestimate yourself.

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Day 100 / 100 Days to More ~

Posted by on Apr 10, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

I see so many people spending too much time trying to support those who do not in turn support them. This sucks their positive energy; relationships need to be win-win otherwise resentment will always find a way in and derail your own progress. Be careful of the “Your Success is My failure” mentalities, these individuals resent your progress because they feel it means they are failing. Build a strong inner-circle of positive “proactive” people.” 

No matter what you do or how amazing you are, throughout your lifetime some people will still upset you, disrespect you, and treat you poorly. Hatred and negativity filling your heart and mind will only consume you and your potential. You will begin to heal and grow emotionally when you let go of these past hurts, excuse the people who have wronged you, and forgive yourself for your misjudgments.

Learning to ignore certain people and situations is one of the great paths to inner peace. So let GO when you must. Let them be, so you can be at peace. There will be always people who don’t like you; the way you look, the way you talk, the things you say, the way you dress, the things you believe in, the music you listen to but truth is: it’s up to you if you let them ruin your day or if you learn to stand up for yourself and accept yourself just the way you are. Try to be as good as you can and if that’s not enough for them, it will certainly be for someone else. You’re not here to please anyone. Just be nice and true to yourself.

Action:  Are you more….

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Day 99 / 100 Days to More ~

Posted by on Apr 9, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

You don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to have it all together. You don’t need to please everyone. You don’t need to be anything or anyone other than who you are. You are more than good enough. Who you are is beautiful. Who you are is loved. Who you are is special in more ways than one. Place that heavy burden on the ground. Throw it into the sea. Expel it from your being. You will be lighter in mind, body, and soul. Live in that freedom of the true you.

You might be reluctant to get rid of your bad habits because they are familiar and comfortable to you. But instead of clinging to those bad habits, realize that you can adopt better ones that will eventually feel just as good–if not better–than your old habits, and will benefit you so much more in the long term. Start small by replacing one small bad habit with one good habit. Soon, you will have given all your habits a healthy upgrade, and you’ll feel much better as a result!

Action: What are you doing with your life to get more later?  Who do you need to become?

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